Cultivate balance. Respond differently. Feel in control.
Therapy for Women in Denville | Online Across New Jersey & New York
You’ve always held yourself to high standards, but now you’re questioning whether you’re capable of navigating this season of life.
You want to show up to every part of your life—your work, your relationships, your role as a parent—as your best self. But lately, it feels like your emotions have more control over you than you have over them. And with the shifts you’re experiencing right now, you want to feel more grounded and secure in who you are.
On top of that, maybe you’re struggling with…
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There’s an expectation that you’ll only feel joyful about pregnancy and motherhood, but the reality is often more overwhelming than we’re prepared for.
Sometimes, the endless thoughts—like worrying if you're doing things "right" or if you’re really cut out for this role—can feel like they never quiet down. When you think about heading back to work or trying to decide what kind of mom you want to be, it feels like you’re teetering on the edge of an identity crisis. Relationship issues can surface, too, making you feel distant from or out of sync with your partner. And if you’re facing something like infertility or IVF struggles, or dealing with the pain of miscarriage, there’s a whole other layer of loneliness that others can’t see.
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No matter what you do, it feels like you’re always one step behind. The constant need to take care of others, maintain your relationships, and avoid missing out often leaves you drained, running on little sleep, and battling guilt for not being able to check every box. Even when you do get a quiet moment, you’re fighting (and losing to) the urge to fidget or pick at something, because stillness feels more unsettling than anything.
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Old memories have a way of resurfacing when you most want to keep them buried. Flashbacks or unwanted thoughts can make it hard to feel fully present in your life or comfortable getting close to others, and the fear of judgment might keep you from expressing how you feel. Though you've probably tried therapy before, you’re ready for something different—something that heals the deeper wounds.
When you can get to the root of the issue, you can release what’s been holding you back and find a new way forward.
Hi, I’m valerie
Let’s take a deeper look, name the patterns you’re stuck in, and explore ways to approach them differently.
In our work together, we’ll focus on creating a space where you can feel comfortable sharing stories and exploring your experiences without holding back. I bring a steady, compassionate presence that’s honest and straightforward—I’ll check in with you before naming something I’m noticing or asking a challenging question, because I believe our partnership should be built on a foundation of honesty and mutual respect. If you’re brushing something off or feeling unsure, I’ll create space for us to understand why. We’ll work together, without judgment, to validate your experiences and see how they’ve shaped who you are today.
My approach is rooted in understanding the deep connections you’ve formed throughout life—
Your bonds with caregivers, your patterns with loved ones, and even your relationship with yourself. I use a blend of body-based awareness and parts work (communicating with the conflicting ideas in your mind) to help you notice where things feel tight or uneasy, like when frustration builds up in your chest or sadness feels like a weight. By tuning into your body’s signals, we can gradually soften what feels overwhelming, allowing space for insight, healing, and real change. And, as we dive into these patterns, you’ll have my full expertise and commitment to support you every step of the way.
Let’s get started
Finally find the peace you’ve been missing.
Click the button below to schedule a free consultation. On this brief call, we can talk about what’s bringing you to therapy and I can answer any questions you have about working with me. If you feel we’re a good fit, we’ll schedule your first appointment. I am based in Denville and offer sessions virtually across New Jersey and New York.